Just a few notes on my last list, and some of the responses.
#1) Self-medication: yes, do this. Don't be stoic. HOWEVER, don't overdo the red wine thing. It's easy to do. It tastes so good. But, it can kind of destroy you the next day if you aren't careful. Then, you don't feel like doing the long walk, eating the chocolate bunny, and all that good stuff. Unfortunately, that's where I'm at today. I overdid #1.
#2) Anonymous suggested flirting, and I think that is super. And, Pandora, I don't think flirting has to be "mutual", although that is fun when it happens. But, flirting just is. And, as Conch Shell pointed out last night, you can always deny its existence if you need to. You can say, "I was just being my usual charming self"... But flirting is tricky in Ottawa and I think it requires a whole lot more study and analysis. My experience with flirting here has been mostly unsuccessful, leaving me feeling fairly asexual overall. Not that flirting has to have an "outcome"; but even a little mild fucking acknowledgement or a nod of appreciation would be nice.
#3) Anonymous also mentioned getting a pedicure, and I think that is a good idea. Or, you can do it yourself if you are able to bend over without getting head spins. Again, be careful with #1.
#4) I recommend doing some Yin Yoga. It's a kind of yoga where you lie on the floor for a really long time. Lots of hip openers, which are really good for the mojo, and treating late-winter asexuality.
#5) There is no 5th thing.
5 comments:
Darlings, flirting is a four season activity.
I think someone in the know (mot me) should offer some instruction. Martha Beck suggests the best flirting is just displaying a concentrated interest. Any other ideas?
I think I agree with anonymous about the concentrated interest. Actually, I don't think I really like flirting that includes sexual innuendo statements, unless I'm already involved with that person. And, that said, I think flirting is something that's generally a pre-relationship thing. Once involved, it's more like foreplay or courting, not flirting.
Regarding red wine, true. My suggestion is sometimes go with beer, which you can drink more of without getting that morning head-ache.
Conch Shell: I get the feeling you may have been drinking when you wrote that. Good suggestion about the beer. I don't like the beer bloating thing, though.
Anonymous: I guess there have books written on flirting, and lots of research devoted to it. It's complex, and maybe one of those things that can be destroyed by thinking too much about it. Maybe we need to just focus on concrete things, like the cute boots. Yesterday on Elgin St., Coyote and I saw a woman dressed in the usual winter drab greys and blacks wearing a pair of bright banana-yellow platform shoes. Nice touch. "Bring on spring from the ground up," said Coyote, who is a great admirer of footwear.
Manny Blue: You are so right about flirting being a 4-season activity. We should just be out doing it, not overthinking it.
Yin yoga makes me feel like puking. And I'm SO not on the rubber boots bandwagon - too trendy. I give a nod to the yellow platforms. I also saw a woman yesterday wearing jeans with thong-toe high heeled sandals with bare feet and painted toenails. Go girl!
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